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Aries moon/Scorpio moon

danny — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 15:37:20 GMT

What is it about aries moons that i love to hate and hate to love? I'm a scorpio moon, and theres just somthing that attracts me to them but at the same time knowing that in some way i could never be with them or them with me. Iv had many encounters with aries moon. my last relationship was with an aries moon, that was 4 years ago and iv never got over it since. Theres always this tug of power, i mean, im a gay male and even with the straightest of men (with aries moon) theres still some sort of chemistry. Especially when i dont take their shit. Its like an afrodesiac, the arguments begin and theres somthing erotic about knowin it will be a struggle to top the other. Of course if youv dated or known a scorpio moon, its not always a fun ride. Theres an unconfidence I feel around a aries moon, a sort of fear u cud say. They are so honest, laying it all out on the table, and they have no problem with getting up close and personal early on. I mean i had met this guy once and he started telling every one we were seeing each other...... huh? lol.
Any who, there was no great point to this post. Other than to ask if any of u hav been in a aries moon/scorpio moon relationship of any sort.

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Aries Moon & health

staceman — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 05:29:00 GMT

Are heart attacks, and heart problems in general, common among Aries moons? I was just curious, what with our explosive tempers and all, you would think we'd be prime candidates. I'm 38, not extremely out of shape, but not in the best of shape either, cardio-wise, and I know that my outbursts really do a number on me, all of that negative energy. I believe it weakens my immune system, as I tend to catch colds and whatnot within a day or so of the outburst, and I even will break out a little with acne.

I do tend to have more control over them nowadays, it takes lots of practice and patience!

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sun/moon/rising

digory — Tue, 08 Jun 2004 17:59:19 GMT

virgo aries gemini

Please some one tell me to shut up before someone gets hurt!! That damn ram has control of my voice and it out for vengeance

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Your Favorite moonsign to jive with...

djsonar — Mon, 28 Mar 2005 17:02:41 GMT

Any one have a particularly memorable moon sign you like to socialize and jive with with.

They all have meaning and purpose in our lives but Ive always enjoyed Sag moons and of course other Aries moons. Aquarian moons have taught me about self control 'cause theyre non-reactive which can cause a reaction! Water moons are a bit sensitive for the fire moon especially if we're in a testy state. But if you have a water sign in your chart this will enable balance and. Another Aries moon will best understand your natural ebb and flow like no other. Hold these friends close. Youll know when you meet another moon native. Honoring each other is honoring self. We are the starters of the cosmos. And the fearless when others crumble.

All experiences are appreciated here feel free to express yourself.

Have a great day.

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Airies Moon (western) Pisces Moon (Vedic)

Oba — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 19:34:36 GMT

Greetings,

I have my natal moon in Aries (10 degrees) on western and is on Pisces on the "Vedic" way.

I have the sudden explosiveness of moon in Aries (i call it the lightning part of me) and the sensitivity of a Pisces moon (im very close to the ocean).

Any others here on the same "boat" ? if so, what could you share about your own experience with this astrological combination?

Thanks

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A Sermon for Aries Moon

Maggie — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 19:40:44 GMT

I think this is a perfect Sermon ("Teaching") for those of us with Aries Moon:

http://www.coyotenetworknews.com/productcart/pc/radioshow.htm

Go to the August 13th show....Reverend Ike!!!

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Moon in Aries in the 12th house

emily — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 18:16:38 GMT

I have my moon in Aries in the 12th house. It seems that this makes my feelings obscure to others even myself, like they are in a deep far off land which then suddenly explodes and as mysteriously as it came it goes back into the unconscious. I find it easy to discuss many things, but when it comes to what I'm experiencing emotionally it becomes hard to express, and I even fight it, like the emotions don't want to be revealed when others want them or press me to reveal, but only when they are ignited on their own accord.

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aries moon and fires/explosions

olivia — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 01:36:03 GMT

i'm aries moon, and my mom and daughter, both of whom live with me, are also aries moon, and we've seemed to have a inordinate amount of "naturally occuring" house and car fires, during the time only when we live together. It's weird, like the combo of all our fiery aries/mars energy is causing it. We have had 2 semi-serious house fires, 1 where the whole house burnt down , and 1 serious car fire, none of which have been "our fault", and i have always heard that strong aries placements in a chart can manifest an increased chance for fires/explosions

Has anyone else with this placement had experience with this?

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Aries moon

Tue, 20 Jan 2009 04:51:15 GMT

What exactly does this indicate? I have a 25 d moon

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Moon in aries + Mars in libra

Fri, 06 Apr 2007 14:17:04 GMT

Does this mean anything important? since they are opposite signs? i mean, i feel anger very easily but i have a very hard time expressing it the way i want to. it just builds up and then i end up exploding at the wrong time all the time. It's like my mind and body are always arguing and from the outside people see me as inconsistent or deceitful. it just drives me crazy and i end up loosing loads of friends because of it. i don't know much about astrology so i don't know but could it be because my moon and mars are in opposite signs?

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Aries Anger Issues - wah, I need help~

GlowStick — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 05:57:33 GMT

So yes,

I have always had.. well.. it's funny, I used to not have anger issues but this year I do- anyway, I have some issues dealing with anger. Recently, I had a friend (Sag/Sag rising/Cappy moon) basically start ignoring me when I had emotional problems, and yet I was helping her get through when her boyfriend was acting like a complete jerk and moron to her. They broke up and I had to listen to her go on and on about it at times, but after I helped her with that and she was pretty much over it, she starts ignoring it.

But get this, I had a crush on a guy (Libra/Leo rising/Gemini moon), we get into a dispute and after I stop talking him really, I made the mistake (well before, but yeah) of introducing them. Now they are friends and she is helping him get over me, even though she basically ignored me when I needed help. Yeah, fucking two face bitch.

Anyway, I really don't know how to deal with this- I have written out nasty messages to both and sent it to them, he at least won't be surprised but she might be. I have no clue. I just feel so much anger that my chest hurts. I've tried hitting things but that makes it worse at times.

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Aries Sunsigns

Kjetil — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 12:13:11 GMT

Hey boys and girls! Any of you have any experience with Aries suns? Lovers or friends? Enemys and foes? Partners in crime? :-P I think any good party needs a good portion of firy energy ;-)

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Quesh for all my fellow Aries moons out there!

Cornelia — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 00:18:29 GMT

Can you sort of just intuitively tell when you encounter a fellow Aries moon? Their brusque mannerisms, their happy-go-lucky demeanor, their zeal, energy and voracity??
I'm saying this because I always know when I'm in the presence of another A-Moon. And...it's a really REALLY magical, insta-connection! Within 5 minutes of meeting, we're best friends and planning adventures together....Aries moons, are you attracted/intrigued/beguiled by your own? And have you felt this connection I speak of?

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Sports, Activities & Entertainments

Maggie — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 17:43:52 GMT

Greetings, all! I was reading about the Moon and the author suggested that the Moon shows us what we need to do in this life, but that we were best not to do it as a job, but more for fun or relaxation.

I wonder how many of us like to do (or have done) Aries-like activities for fun.

For instance, I have taken the following classes: Martial Arts (karate, aikido, general self-defense), Archery, Fencing. I love to just drive by myself...it helps me sort things out. I don't even care if I get lost. Just walking, especially exploring new places. I love one-on-one sports, like Tennis or Bowling or Ping Pong (which can also be team sports, of course).

I like a lot of shoot-em-up entertainments (when I am in the mood), like "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" which I watched last night. I also like Bruce Lee movies, "duel" movies, Robin Hood, etc.

These aren't the only kinds of activities & entertainments that I like, but I find they give me a kind of "release" when I get moody.

What about you?

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i am so impatient...

Monica — Thu, 24 Aug 2006 18:54:35 GMT

i am so impatient it makes me crazy. i'm trying to just "give something over to the universe," but it's not really my way, you know? i just want to burst forward and take action, even if it makes more of a mess of things. sigh. a few deep breaths. maybe i can distract myself with some new activity or some movement or something....

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cold, heartless, egoistic Aries moon man

Reena — Sat, 12 Jan 2008 18:00:51 GMT

sometimes he's nice...damn nice to me. but he can be very mean... like...

---> " it's only few days Ive never call u. but that doesnt mean you're forgotten. ur alway on my mind, my heart, blah...blah..."

well, that's for few days... after that he never call/msg me for a week and he came back to me tell me the same thing like before.

---> he never show up after ive wait him for 2 hours. he knew i was waiting for him, and he didnt even inform me that he's not coming. yeah, 2 hours after 12 midnite. after the rain has has stopped. damn cold! i mean, wat kind of guy who could do this to a girl?

---> we had a huge fight, and when i cried in front of him, i thought things gonna cool down...and he will wipe away my tears and give me a hug. but i was sobbing very badly dat time when he suddenly said...
" i dun like to see any girl cry. if u wanna cry, go cry sumwhere else. not in front of me. im not dead u see?" -(with a calm voice and normal tone. no angry voice or screaming at me.)

ok, i think it's enuff. short briefing for my guy ( he still??) who has Cancer sun sign, Venus in Gemini, Mars in Virgo and Moon in Aries..... there are many things i could tell about his 'unemotional' character towards me, but only one question came into my mind....

Does Moon in Aries can really turn someone to this type of 'creature' even if he/she has Water sun sign? okay, he never raise his hand or voice to me, but most of the time his act and words can really torture me.

ohh, my intro. Cancer girl wif moon in Pisces. I have proud Leo in Venus and and crabby crab in Mars.

Sigh....My fault. I knew I was wrong to involve in a relationship with married man (dats him!).

I wish i could leave him as soon as possible. But I realized I could never do that because... I really love him. Even though he treat me badly.

Well, I guess I should avoid any man who has Venus in Gemini or Moon in Aries next time. LOL.

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Is the aires the most hopless romantic

Bernard — Thu, 04 Oct 2007 00:27:15 GMT

Do we give more of our hearts and minds to our lovers and playmates than anyone else?? Or is it our consumption based heodinistic lives that make us so passionate?

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Is it weird?

Ejiro — Fri, 11 Aug 2006 16:06:56 GMT

I have an Aquarius Sun and Rising with an Aries moon and I have realized that I actually like arguments. They actually make me excited and I go into FIGHT mode...and of course anything that someone says as a response I take personally. Is this just me?

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this is awesome!

femmetastic — Sat, 24 Jun 2006 23:26:09 GMT

I'm new on this list! I cannot believe somebody made this tribe!!! love to you all!!! muaaa

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The (Afflicted?) Aries Moon

Scott — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 13:57:45 GMT

I'm new to this tribe, I have an Aries Moon, and I recently wrote a long blurb about Aries Moons to a friend that was having difficulty with one. For what it's worth, I thought I would post it here. I hope it helps someone. Scott

Here goes:

Aries Moon...as you know, Aries Moon (AM) people learned at an early age to be self-sufficient, not originally as a preference, although it can become a preference, from habit and the perspective that "If I want it, I'll have to go get it, because it won't come on its own, and no one will provide it." We learned that sooner or later, we WILL be let down by others. The earliest lack of confidence in relationships came as a result of our relationships with our parents. If that all-important relationship was suspect or failed, how could any that followed not be?

It is also said that the mother of the AM native might have been brusque, lacking in compassion or tenderness, etc. You know the description of the AM and I do too, I've read many descriptions from many authors. Any of it is close enough so I won't continue to beat on the obvious meaning. I give my mother some slack on this. I'm third to the oldest. Most of us were 2 years or less apart, and there were 8 siblings in all. Mother worked as a beautician throughout much of this time on top of everything else. I also have Neptune in the 4th and may be deluded about my early environment. The bottom line is that it happened, no matter what the factors involved. There is little doubt in my mind that given my own temperament, personality, and foibles, my parents likely felt less beleaguered than I would have with such a large family. In my own case, 3 children were more than enough to challenge me as a parent. I absolutely cannot imagine having 8 children.

My father owned his own business until I was a junior in High School (1972). He worked anywhere from 60-70 hours per week, often more, and was volunteer Fire Chief in my home town during this time and for 33 continuous years in all. Oh, and did I mention that my father and mother were very active in the local church? Mother was choir director, led a ladies Bible Study, Dad was a Deacon (Elder), and the two of them were there nearly every time the doors were open. They were literally and without exaggeration "pillars of the church". They couldn't say "no" to anyone except their own family. We were taught, for all practical purposes, that if helping someone was within our power, we were obligated to help them, that it was morally right. We were taught this by example, big time. If my father had a few spare minutes or hours, as rare as they were, the last thing he wanted to do was fill them up with "non-critical, non-essential" parental activities. God forbid (no pun intended) we should want individual attention on top of an already tough situation for our very fertile parents.

My mother's mother and my mother's mother's mother, and who knows how many mothers before that, had some pretty serious issues. Several of my mother's side have been in mental institutions. My mother had a very poor childhood with huge responsibilities as a young girl, providing for her younger siblings. My mother has been a "parent" since she was 10-12 years old due to her parent's divorce. She wanted to live with her father but he told her that she was needed "at home". That is a rejection she never got over in my opinion.

For the last couple of decades or more, I am able to remember that such as my childhood was, it was the only one that I'll ever have.

As you can imagine, little people can't understand all of this.

By the way, I am only speaking for myself when I speak of AM's, it's all from my own perspective. My description and perception of an AM will likely have some of my own early environment/mother issues mixed in that may not appropriately fit other AM's. If anything got me through it, it was an extremely strong will. I became my own parent. The world became my parent (Pluto in 1?). I provided my own support as best I could. My other siblings became important, we were each other's family in many senses, not just through biology. Sometimes, it seemed as though we had little else by way of emotional support.

The more something or someone means to an AM, the more inclined they are to feel it will fail. Something will go wrong, it always has, it just has to. (I once believed, with total confidence, that nothing would ever come between me and either P*****or S**, I believed them both to be soul mates. Now, I'm not so cocky.) The AM usually, but not always of course, turns away first, since we may as well face the truth, and hell, we've been there before, millions of times it seems. As bad as it is to see the inevitably bad end result before it happens, to believe that it will happen, to experience that end result is even worse, so why go through it? It's bad enough to know it's coming. Yes, this becomes a foregone conclusion, and sometimes, self-fulfilling. We believe in Murphy's Law because it has been so consistently true all of our lives.

So we turn away, insulating ourselves as best we know how, from pain. Our minds don't change, our hearts don't change, we don't write anyone off, but they would never know it. We know that we may be wrong about the outcome, that it might have all worked out OK if we had hung with it, but we haven't been wrong very much in the past so why chance it? We've learned from the past that we can survive disappointment and hurt. We punish ourselves before others can punish us because that way they haven't actually delivered the final blow. Turning away is self-protective, and the lesser of the two evils.

Aries have the reputation of being ego-centric and selfish, and nothing I could ever say will change that or disprove it. And certainly we can be, and are inclined to be. But we've never hurt ourselves they way others have either. Where should our first loyalty lie then? How would we know when we're wrong? We don't wait to find out, too much is at stake. You wouldn't think that Aries could be hurt or even that they are particularly caring, but I see them as totally vulnerable. We strike out, very usually first, and sometimes with a lot of force. The very extremity of this points to the extremity of the vulnerability. If this is hard for you to understand, then I don't blame you. It just doesn't make sense when you're on the receiving end, which, with an AM in a very close relationship, you may well be.

In my opinion, all negative emotions have at their root, fear. Our emotions motivate us, drive us. Aries are motivated by emotions very strongly. The Libran Moon may handle conflict by finding common ground or compromising or using tact or agreeing to disagree, but the AM fights. If that fails, we retreat. That's why Aries have a big temper but is short lived. Fear and pain. The fear of loss or that something won't work out as planned or hoped for, brings the strong reaction. The manifestation of fear, which is anger, the extreme reaction, ends quickly because we admit defeat (we've seen the pattern before, many times) and the retreat follows quickly. We're first to the fight, and unless the fight is almost immediately successful, quick to retreat.

The only thing that saves an AM is unconditional love. But I'll tell you what, it better be the real thing, because if it isn't, the AM will see it a country mile away, is planning on failure and/or rejection, probably doesn't believe that truly limitless unconditional love even exists anyway, and has been watching for the beginning of the end from the start. It would damn near have to be perfect love or no one could put up with us. I still believe through my own experience with my own Moon and a few Aries Suns, that interacting with an Aries Sun must be a pleasure compared to an Aries Moon, my son J***** being an exception. J***** got lots of affirmations when he was little.

So when you tell the niece that you don't want her bringing her drug thing into your house she knows that you have that right, more than likely agrees that she shouldn't (she may not admit it---self-protective) but only sees it as another inevitable end result, which is probably a bigger deal to her than the existing circumstances, possibly much bigger. She's probably very hurt and knows deep down that she did it to herself, not you. You were only incidental in her own, self-wrought demise. She may not believe that you're not throwing out the baby, but just the bath water, because to her, they aren't separate. She IS drugs, and at least for now, inseparable. She may even think that if she was worth it to you, the relationship that is, then you'd accommodate her. See how this works? She likely only registers the rejection, that's what will probably stay with her, even though she probably knows that you did what was right for you and yours. And you certainly did. You didn't have the time or luxury to rehabilitate your niece, too much was at stake.

People that deal with AM's develop the attitude over time that we really should know better, and it's true, we should, we do know better in a general way. These people who are willing or able to deal with AM's come to see themselves as facilitators, and that is true to an extent, sometimes to a very great extent. I have told S** many times that she needs to sit me down and tell me how and why she feels the way she does in a non-threatening way, every single time she feels wronged. But people who deal with AM's wonder how many times they have to say the same things, and why can't we learn our lessons considering that the principles of the problem are so consistent over the long term? After awhile, it just seems like an excuse. This is one of those times where I say if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it's NOT a duck, it's an Aries Moon. Once a person's mind changes, they, as a person, change. It may not be visible, but the change is there, inside. For it to become an external change, there has to be what I call a "mechanism" in place that is triggered in the heat of the moment, in real time, when it's needed, not after it's too late. Because AM's are incredibly self-aware, and not nearly as "others-aware" during the heat of the moment ("heat" being an incredibly appropriate word here), confrontation must become the mechanism. This is our blind spot, our weakness. Even if the confrontation occurs after things have cooled off, it must occur every time there is a violation.

I think what S**'s transiting Pluto, hitting her Ascendant and 1st house, really helped us both with was that during discussions about our relationship, which were very intense on several occasions, she was able to confront and not back down. There was nowhere to go. Our minds would not be changing, it had all been boiled down. S** was ready to chalk it up and move forward, while I was dwelling on the past and the emotions of it all. But like I said, there was nowhere to go. So the AM had to either retreat (leave) or initiate action. I initiated action, I set all my emotions and the past aside, and decided to chalk it up and move forward. This was a milestone for me. The past and the emotions of it all have lost their overwhelming power. It's been several months now and I do think about the past, and I do feel emotions about it all, but I don't dwell on them. I can't get away from the simple logic that we must move forward and not dwell on the past. A lot of stuff is implied here, a lot of natural inclinations and conditioned responses have been defeated for the first time. I'm a bigger boy now, I got help with my Aries Moon. With a still-developing confidence I say that it came down to the limit of S**'s threshold of endurance and that Pluto saved us. Pluto empowered S** and the end result of that empowered me. It'll take awhile prove this out, but so far so good. Obviously, it could have gone much differently, much worse. Even a quick look at her chart will tell you that she would likely have a difficult time not being a facilitator.

People think when interacting with the AM that they are dealing with aggression, anger, selfishness, etc, and they well may be, but at the root of all of this, they are dealing with weakness, vulnerability, and as far as I'm concerned, the AM's original wound.

So, how do you deal appropriately with an AM? Is there an approach that can be taken that will be seen by an AM as being conditionally accepting without intending the ultimate rejection of them? Yes, you can go back to their earliest environment and re-program their parents to show them tangible evidence of love on a continuous basis while at the same time enforcing appropriate behaviors in them. Not possible.

But the principle is valid. Every individual is responsible to stand up for themselves and what is right. If one chooses to avoid the confrontation then they ARE a facilitator, by choice. They've facilitated two people, themselves and the AM. The facilitators see the AM as the bad guy clearly, the Duck. OK, fine, we're a duck. What does that make them? An Ostrich? Both conditions are pretty serious, both conditions contribute to the "inevitable" end result. It's just as hard for the facilitator to change their ways as it is for the AM to change theirs. The facilitator says "But I'm not the bad guy!!!" Is that true? The AM takes advantage and the facilitator allows it. Is one extreme worse than the other? The facilitator says yes, the AM says no. Both extremes perpetuate the problem. Is it better to be a duck or an ostrich? Most people would probably say "ostrich".

The AM is pre-disposed to be a duck, the facilitator is pre-disposed to be an ostrich. An AM is extremely strong-willed, a facilitator is much less so. If an AM can change so can the facilitator. In fact, for the change to come, both sides have to accept more personal responsibility. The facilitator says "But I've been so patient." (I've been the good guy.) Sounds good but it's not true. Is being a facilitator a good thing for either side? If you like the outcome of that pre-disposition then the answer is yes. If it has served you well then why aren't you (they) happy with it?

My sister said to me once "Why do all my significant others treat me like a door mat?" My response, "Because you allow them to." Was the friction the boyfriend's fault or my sister's? My answer is both. But because my sister sees herself as the martyr, accurately so, she feels she has been the "good guy". OK, fine, she is the good guy, she's also a door mat, the facilitator, by choice, to her own detriment. She was her boyfriends' accomplice. It was easier, more noble (in her mind at least) to be the facilitator, the ostrich, than to be a duck. Congratulations, the injured party won the moral victory, as a door mat. She always picked the same type, and is married to one now. In the end, it doesn't matter who's more or less right, except to the facilitator. The bad guy knows he's bad. And my sister is far from innocent. She's a Virgo by the way.

The relationship continues until the facilitator can no longer accept the role they've chosen by default for themselves, and the blame goes to the duck. It's no longer worth it. It isn't the best perspective in the world, but as long as the relationship is worth it, the duck is worth it, the relationship continues.

So when someone either rejects or appears to reject the AM or the AM's behavior, the AM knows (from earliest life experience) that they are not worth it. They knew this from the start, or at least thought they did. When is a duck not a duck? And they're right, the end result is that they (or the relationship, same thing) aren't worth it. This is a harsh truth for both sides. No matter what either side says or what really happened, in the end, it wasn't worth it. It's simple at this point, no matter how complicated the situation was that led up to it. The AM is definitely, very naturally, aware of this home truth.

The AM is screwed, the facilitator is screwed, by themselves and each other. I think AM's see themselves as the bad guy too, always have. If we weren't worthy to be given tangible evidence of love on a consistent basis since the time we can remember, then we must be the bad guy. We aren't going to get out of this no matter what. We're the strong willed ones, usually the aggressors. Is that strength or weakness? Those soft, warm, passive facilitators, strength or weakness? Both? My answer is yes. But I believe the facilitator, the ostrich, as well as the majority, will say that the bad guy is the AM. It walks like a duck, quacks like a duck....it IS a duck. The aggressor is always guilty.

The AM knows generally his faults and foibles. The facilitator generally knows their faults and foibles. But are they aware of themselves when they need to be? Does the AM realize he is stomping on someone each time he does it? I can answer that one. We're so conditioned that the ONE who has our best interests at heart is ourselves, that we become conditioned to naturally exclude other considerations. Do we rationalize at times? Sure. And the facilitator, are they always aware that their silence is not golden? Do they rationalize their behavior? Sure, they're the good guys who practice all this unconditional love and longsuffering while the AM just gobbles it up and expects more (who taught us we could expect it?)....and the AM should know better anyway.

Is a relationship with the AM worth saving or keeping? By the time the ostrich reaches the end of their rope and pulls their head out of the sand, the situation is fairly likely to be in crisis mode. Like they say, insanity is doing the same things in the same manner yet expecting a different (better) result. It's not worth it any more. And this is a home truth that the facilitators can't outrun. The AM's know the difference, we've lived it since childhood. "I love you, but..." We knew it was coming.

Is there a solution? For both parties, that is? Yes, and it's not an easy one. These conditioned-in behaviors are so strong and habitual we've long since lost consistent, immediate, spontaneous (real time) recognition of them.

Remember, I said that AM's didn't get tangible displays of love consistently in their earliest environment? The facilitators are supposedly showing love by accommodating us while building up a huge backlog of resentment and self-righteousness. What is needed is to sit us down, each and every time it is necessary and without displaying negative emotions, and telling us how we are offending and what is needed to fix it or avoid it. Every single time, even though it's been said before. We need to learn to be fair, to consider other's feelings as well as our own. We aren't going to very likely do it on our own, otherwise we already would have. And it's not fair to the facilitator to just let it go, even though they are habitually willing to. They rationalize their indulgence because it is more comfortable for them, at least on the short term, in the heat of the moment.

Both sides have a really entrenched problem and a really difficult change to make---to themselves. Until there is no longer the convenience of blame being used against the other one, it will not significantly change. The answer lies in both sides, as vulnerable as they've been, take a chance on being even more vulnerable. But I've done this a little bit recently and have found that it works. I probably can't buy into it on a wholesale basis quite yet, but rather a piece at a time. To overcome the inequity is the tough part. Both parties would probably agree that the facilitator has done everything and that the AM has done nothing. The surest objective statement that I am willing to make is that it takes two people to have a good or bad long term relationship. The "victim" or weaker one is likely to disagree once all of their reserves have been used up.

To the world: The bottom line....sit me down, tell me what you need to, every single time. You owe it me and you owe it to yourself, unless it is too late for us, unless it's no longer worth it. If it's too late, tell me. You'll find I'm very easy to get rid of. You've given me all of the other commitments you could have, give me this one, give yourself this. It's the one you haven't been able to give consistently so far. I'm already convinced of the truth about myself, that won't be an issue. The biggest issue I'll have is concerning the insecurity that I'm not worth it to you any more. Same as always.

When the AM gets straightened out, whether on their own or through interaction from others, they'll show you. An AM has absolutely no problem initiating action, guaranteed. There is no in between as far as initiating action is concerned. Whenever strong emotions are involved, we're either taking action or still in retreat mode.

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moon in the 12th house

Fishy — Mon, 22 Jan 2007 05:52:52 GMT

I have my moon in the 12th house and was wondering if anyone else does to? It is a difficult aspect with Aries wanting things now, seeing those wants as immediate needs, being impatient contrasted with the 12th house which imposes limitations and a slow as heck fullfilment of desires .

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mercury retrograde over

d-sol-d — Thu, 14 Apr 2005 01:12:56 GMT

Well, this last Mercury retrograde has *finally* come to an end. This time around Mercury was in Aries, and, for me, it was quite a doozy. How did all you firey folks fare?

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New Here!

Thu, 27 Apr 2006 13:16:20 GMT

Hi! I don't have my moon in Aries. It's in Scorpio. I am an Aries sun, however. My four year old son has his moon in Aries. His sun is Capricorn and his rising is Leo. He also has his Mars in Aries.

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Aries Moon/Aries Mars

Wed, 14 Jun 2006 17:59:50 GMT

What is everyones take on this combo? My son has it!

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lunar eclipse in aries

Mon, 17 Oct 2005 17:49:40 GMT

Does anyone know what effect today's lunar eclipse in Aries could have on we who have the lunar sign Aries?

I don't know enough about astrology to understand. All I know is I feel unbelievably emotional today, and not in a good way. It's like the Aries emotional fire is swirling inside today suddenly and I just want to hide from the world. It's tempestuous, impatient, sudden emotion--a whole combination of different emotions. I can't concentrate or get anything done I need to.

There are issues in my life right now that are causing pain, frustration and anxiety, but today is the first time the emotion has overtaken me and been so raw. Normally at least I can contend with it all, but today is different--and I've been dealing with this stuff for months!

Maybe today is just the day my mind randomly chose to have a little mini emotionfest, or does anyone else feel this way today? Does anyone know if maybe the lunar eclipse in our moon sign could actually be exacerbating already existing emotions? I want to stop the world and get off today, as they say. Anyone else?

I'm going to post this in the astrology tribe too, just to see if anyone has any insight.

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firecracker

tracyahicks — Tue, 24 May 2005 00:45:00 GMT

Hi All
Just wanted to introduce myself. I've got an aries moon, venus and saturn. My husband calls me a little firecracker.
peace, Tracy

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qualities

angelina — Thu, 04 Nov 2004 21:45:29 GMT

I definitely feel the fire of my aries moon. it leaves me impatient and demanding, quick to snap and downright thunderous when upset. I'm a rather docille person, most folks wouldn't imagine that I can shoot fire straight out of my eyeballs but there is some little switch somewhere in my personality where my rational, logical, reasonable, open minded aquarius mind just pops into ranting, stomping, head-pointed-down tirades. I am sometimes known to throw things (but never at others). I am always shocked after I have an angry little outburst to find that it was indeed me who was behaving like a raving (baby) lunatic.

oh yes, and the passion, well I have always found aries to be quite flammable this way and I find that my moon affords me a good deal of that aries, ummm, combustability.

how about you?

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ummm... moon in taurus here

lynx007 — Fri, 18 Feb 2005 08:39:00 GMT

desperately wanting more aries moon friends and especially lovers. coffee? walk in the arboretum? please please please.

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our moon!

d-sol-d — Wed, 22 Dec 2004 07:13:13 GMT

Well, the moon was in Aries over the weekend. How's everyone feeling? ;)

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...and what about Mom?

Tue, 07 Dec 2004 08:47:31 GMT

What I've heard, good and bad in Aries moon, it's all thanks to Mom.
What have you got on this? Wondering ~

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It's My Birthday!

fatima — Wed, 20 Oct 2004 21:05:05 GMT

Gimme Some Love!

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New here...

NaughtyKitty — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 01:35:30 GMT

Helloooooo.....

I am new to this tribe and wanted to breathe a bit of life into it.

I am a Scorpio with an Aries Moon and Pisces rising. Not sure what it all means, but people who know usually take a few steps back when I tell them...I have a feeling that If it weren't for the Pisces rising, they's run away all together!

Anyway, Hi.

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Indignant!

Rowen — Wed, 30 Jun 2004 21:51:13 GMT

Marc.....Johnathan......how come i had to finds this tribe accidentally through Fwap inviting me to join the Aries tribe?

Pouting now......

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where the heck is all those impatient ones?

djsonar — Sun, 06 Jun 2004 15:14:26 GMT

Spread the word!

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Hi there !

djsonar — Tue, 25 May 2004 05:15:54 GMT

feeel free to post!

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